Fathers Rights

One of the most frustrating experiences for a father is to be sitting in court, listening to his ex or her witnesses lie about conversations or events. What’s even more frustrating is when Dad hears this testimony, knows that he had evidence to prove it was false, but the evidence isn’t at the trial. Many a custody battle has gone the wrong way because of this.

The best way to make sure you know what she is going to testify to at court is: ask her. Before you go to trial. Make her tell you exactly what she’s going to pull out this time to accuse you of. Find out exactly what her pay is. Make her tell you what she pays for in daycare. Oh - find out if she pays daycare at all!

This process of getting all of her information before you go to court is called “discovery.” It can be done on her, on her payroll, on her bank, on her boyfriend, on the Child Protective Services worker she keeps calling, on the “battered women’s shelter” she says she fled to. In other words, on anyone or anything that might come up in court. Attorneys know all about discovery. Most father’s rights attorneys will conduct discovery. But is it the discovery on the issues and questions that YOU want answers to?

So, to help fathers develop a discovery strategy with their lawyers, we will release “Aggressive Discovery For The Non-Custodial Father” in about a week. Check out the posts before this one for an AWESOME special (how to get it FREE), and for the Table Of Contents.

Tired of her lying? “Aggressive Discovery For The Non-Custodial Father” can help you.

Buy “Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father” NOW and get “Aggressive Discovery For The Non-Custodial Father” for FREE when it’s released. Click HERE.

I am very close - maybe a week - to completing “Aggressive Discovery For The Non-Custodial Father,” the second volume in our expected SIX volume library for Fathers.  And I want to GIVE it to You, the guys (and maybe ladies, I don’t know) who have been reading this blog.  Thank you.

“Aggressive Discovery” is designed to help fathers “expose her lies” (this is one of the most common complaints I hear from fathers) and to make her give up the same information she gets from you all the time.  It is written in generally the same format as “Aggressive Pleadings“: question and answer format; complete explanations not in “legalese” (since this manual is for you, not your lawyer. Your lawyer knows this stuff,just maybe not applying it to your case). It is written to inform you and educate you, so that you can sit down with your lawyer and have many strategy meetings, to map out your goals, and to present your case your way.  Custody battles and divorce wars are hard enough.  Have a strategy.

Here is the Table Of Contents for this new manual (we’re getting to the FREE part, just hold on):

    Chapter 1: What is discovery?
    Chapter 2: Why is discovery important?
    Chapter 3: How can discovery be useful?
    Chapter 4: How can discovery be harmful?
    Chapter 5: Who is discovery conducted by?
    Chapter 6: Who is discovery conducted on?
    Chapter 7: When can discovery be conducted?
    Chapter 8: The aggressive discovery mechanisms

Okay, here’s the deal.  The FREE part.  This “Aggressive Discovery” manual is not on sale yet.  When it DOES go on sale, I would love to put testimonials on the website from people who have read or used “Aggressive Pleadings.”  I would also like to do final editing, based onm your commetns abnpout “Aggressive Pleadings,” to get “Aggressive Discovery” to be the most useful book for you fathers stuck in endless l itigation.
Here’s the deal (yeah, I said it twice): Buy “Aggressive Pleadings” now - BEFORE “Aggressive Discovery” goes on sale - and I will send you “Aggressive Discovery” for free the DAY it goes on sale to the rest of the world.  I would appreciate a testimonial or feedback or even blatant criticism of “Aggressive Pleadings” - but it’s not necessary.

So that’s the deal: Go HERE and buy “Aggressive Pleadings” (and it comes with bonuses) and get “Aggressive Discovery” for FREE in about a week.  Just for reading this blog.

Thank you.

P.S. The day that “Aggressive Discovery” goes on sale - this offer goes away.  There will probably be some kind of “buy it now” special offer.  But it won’t involve a free “Aggressive” book.
So go HERE now and get “Aggressive Pleadings” today.

Here’s another tip on saving attorney’s fees, especially in fierce custody battles. Very early in the case, sit down with your lawyer - face to face, in the same room, not over the phone - and develop your specific measurable goals AND an action plan to get there. For example, don’t put “more time with kids” - make it specific - “1 more overnight per week with kids.”
Then, decide what needs to be presented to get there. Do you need to get your child’s request? Do you need to show that your child’s homework gets done during your parenting time and not hers? Do you need to show that she is engaging in parental alienation?
Then, over the life of the case, don’t waste time on things that don’t move you to your goals. Her lawyer starts making noise about how you are “emtionally abusive.” Make her prove it, and then move on. Or answer it and move on. Stay focused on your goals, and your lawyer money will at least be spent efficiently.
To help you be able to develop a strategy with your lawyer, check out “Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father“

And you know someone - probably several friends or relatives - who could benefit from this blog. Do them, and yourself, a big favor and send them to this site. Because the more fathers who read and converse about Father’s Rights, the more YOU and your kids will benefit from their experiences.

It is such a hassle trying to deal with an ex who will not co-operate on parenting time. Always putting the kids in some activity that steps on your time. Always planning a “family reunion” on your weekend. Always saying “the kids don’t want to see you this time.” And always doing whatever she can to make sure you don’t see your children.

And what do a lot of men decide to do about this parental alienation? “Well,when my kids are ready, they’ll call me.” Or how about: “When they are old enough, they’ll decide to live with me.” Or the ever popular famous last words: “When they turn 18, they’ll come over to my house.” As if the children actually have a say in this decision.

Because the entire time that they are not seeing you - whether that’s a few months, a year, or several years - do you really believe that Mom is telling them “Your father loves you and misses you, and he’s not seeing you because I won’t allow it?” Or is she telling them something else? Something about how you aren’t seeing them because you don’t want to see them? And how do you think their minds - and their hearts- are going to feel about you, hearing that year after year after year? Especially when every Friday brings another disappointment, instead of a weekend with Dad?

Fight to see your children. Fight to enforce your parenting time and your parenting rights.
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Almost 15 years of family law trial work has shown me one thing: women talk to each other; men don’t. Women share experiences in family law court. Men don’t. GUYS! Start talking to each other! Use this blog, internet forums, anything. Just tell each other what worked for you - instead of just pi$$ing and whining about unfair the system is to you. Change the system! Check out “Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father” (http://FamilySale.StartYourLifeNow.com) to help you in court.

I ran across this article (well, I guess it’s more of a column or an editorial), talking about contentious custody battles.  It’s the author’s thoughts on how really “bad” and “dirty” custody battles can bring out the worst in people - even hiring a hit man to kill! Here’s the article: Child custody trials can bring out the worst in parents by Tamara Dietrich.  Now, this isn’ta father’s rights article, or even blog post. But it involves parenting time, which is what most fathers mean by “father’s rights.”

Now, look at this sentence from the article: “Because when it comes to child custody battles, our court system is almost designed to bring out the worst in us.”  Unfortunately, this is almost always true.  The litigation process as it is now has mothers trying to prove that GOOD fathers are BAD men, to deny them parenting time and/or gain more child support.  It also has fathers trying to prove that mothers don’t really love their children (because trying to prove that father loves child as much as mother does is a lost cause.)

And the article ends with the usual “what can we do? It sucks. And the kids get hurt.” Boo hoo! So what’s your freaking proposal? That “everyone just get along”??? In a system you ACKNOWLEDGE is designed to get them fighting AND on a very personal level????

(these are my PERSONAL opinions - and they aren’t even LEGAL opinions - just observations)
Here’s some of MY suggestions (for divorce.  Paternity might be different - maybe next blog):
1. Both parents are presumed to get equal parenting time.  The parent wanting more can show ONLY that equal parenting time is impractical (i.e., parent A lives too far from school).
2. The Court can presume that, if parent A remained with parent B after an alleged act of domestic violence, that parent A did not at that time consider the act to be sufficient to deny parent B prenting time, and therefore, the Court NOW can consider it not sufficeint to deny parent B parenting time.
3. No accusation of “alcoholic” can even be mentioned in court UNLESS the person has been designated so by a counselor (sub-suggestion: courts are required to ordered drug tests AND alcohol evaluations UNLESS the parents agree not to).

These are suggestions to get rid of some of the personal attacks.  The Courts should basically persume that, if people lived together AND both had access to their kids BEFORE the divorce, they should have the same AFTER the divorce.
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I saw this article recently about how the State of Florida has changed the language in some of its child custody statutes. The article is at:  Victory for fathers’ rights in divorces.  Now, I am not a Florida attorney, so I don’t know the legal ramifications.  But, based on the news article, Florida has recognized the role of fathers in their children’s lives.

Some people may say “What does it matter what you call it? Visitation or parenting time? Who cares?”
Well, it does matter to the fathers and their children.  AND to the judges who have to enforce it.  A judge is more likely to RESPECT “parenting time” because that recognizes the role of father in raising his children.  “Visitation” sounds like a trip to grandparent’s house for the holidays or going to the hospital or the jail.

Many states already call it “parenting time” as opposed to “visitation.”  Many states call them “parenting plans” or “co-parenting agreements” as opposed to “visitation schedules.”  And this shift in language means a shift in focus.  And hopefully the parental alienation that used to occur when parents divorced won’t be permitted anymore.

Will we get to the day when fathers are presumed to have the same amount of time as mother? Well, that’s a topic for another time.  For right now, let’s applaud Florida for helping out its dads.

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