Fathers Rights

Moms have it easy.  Every mother with custody is a "single mother." As if Dad wasn't there to help. So what should we call Dads who don't have custody, but still raise their children?

I am seriously asking for your help here, guys. "Fathers Without Custody" is too long. "Non-custodial Fathers" is too clinical. "Single Fathers" isn't really accurate.

So leave me a comment here on what YOU think fathers who don't have custody should be called.

And please don't say "Dad" or "Father." That's like saying Michael Jordan should be called "guard" or The Beatles should be called "a band." Let's come up with a term that lets everyone you are a father who is RAISING his children, not just visiting them every other weekend!

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I saw last week where Britney Spears agreed to give custody of their children (of coiurse, the media always called them"HER children") to her ex-husband Kevin Federline. I have seen very little media attention to this. NONE of the usual "talking heads" who always spew garbage about celebrity divorces was on TV about this. Very little on talk radio. Now, granted - I don't monitor all media outlets, so if there was buzz about it - maybe I missed it. But here is why this reaction is BAD for fathers without custody and father's rights in general. And, the part about she gets more parent visitaiton as her "behavior" improves - when was the last time you saw THAT in your orders?

This case - Britney Spears and Kevin Federline fighting over custody of their children - is being treated as "Britney GAVE UP or LOST custody of the kids," and not as "Kevin WON or DESERVED custody of his kids." Instead of emphasizing the changes Kevin Federline has gone through in his life to improve the child issues (apparently he has toned down the partying, given up the rap career an has spent much more time with the children) - the focus is on Britney's BAD ACTS (her partying, her almost dropping the baby, driving with the baby in her lap, etc.) The thrust seems to be - still - that mothers (no matter how bad or dangerous) must LOSE custody of the children. There was almost no discussion that Kevin loved his children, changed his life to make theirs better, or was trying to protect his children.

This, my friend, is you. You love your children. That's never mentioned in court. You make changes in your life to improve your visitation schedule with your children. That's never mentioned or it's attacked (you cut down on overtime so you woulnd't pay child support, not because you want to spend more time with your children). You try to protect your children, and it's attacked as "trying to run your ex's life."

Kevin Federline was fortunate. He has a ton of money, no need to get a 9-5 (or, for most fathers, 8-6) job, and a wife who publicly continued to screw up. You probably don't have these. You have a judge who has an attitude about you and your case, an ex who says everything is your fault, and a lawyer who maybe isn't as aggressive as you want.

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Oh, and could you do me - and your best friend - a favor? Tell a guy you know, who doesn't have custody of his children, about this blog and this manual? It may help him out, too. Thanks. We appreciate it.

One thing that fathers without custody need to become very good at is ANTICIPATION.  Looking ahead and seeing holidays that are coming, vacations, school.  Because THOSE are the times where conflict with the mother can occur. So this posting will look at a very important event that is coming for almost everyone's kids: SCHOOL!

Traditional school schedules will start around the end of August or beginning of September.  Right now is when you - DAD - should be talking with your kids and finding out who their teachers are going to be, what subjects excite them and bore them, what sports or clubs they want to get into.  Because I bet you will not get this information from the mother.  Probably, the mother will try to prevent you from finding out this information.

So right now - RIGHT NOW, damn it - call your kids and ask them these questions.  Talk to them about school. Go to the school and introduce yourself to the teachers and the principals.  Get the teacher's email address so you can stay in touch with what is going on with your children.

Find out their clubs and sports. Sign up as a volunteer coach or assistant.  Meet the leaders of these activities.

Your children are growing. Growing is a VERB.  It is ACTION.  The mother is counting on you staying static and letting the children outgrow you. KEEP UP! And do it NOW!

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Here's something I bet you'd never expect: a lawyer telling you how to save on attorney's fees! Even MY fees! Why would a lawyer do this? Simple. You probably hire a lawyer in a family law case for 2 purposes: either to spend more time with your children, or to protect your money from being taken away from you. It doesn't make sense to spend so much money on your lawyer that you can't afford to spend some on your kids when you get them. And it doesn't make sense to spend more on your lawyer than you are going to save. So let's look at tip#1.

Imagine you send an email to lawyer:
"She denied my parenting time again. I want something done!"

Your lawyer charges:

1. Time to read email
2. Time to reply to email, requesting details
3. Time to read email with details
4. Time to review Order for specific violation
5. Time to draft Petition For Contempt
6. Time to correspond with you to get it right
7. Time to file with court
8. Time to read your followup email: "How do we make sure she doesn't KEEP denying my time?"
9. Time to draft Petition To Enforce Parenting Time
10. Time to draft more Petitions For Contempt for the continuing violations

==OR==

You send an email to your attorney:

"She denied my parenting time again. Please draft a Petition For Contempt. Here is the specific part of the Order she violated. Here are the details: (details required for the Petition). Also, please draft a Petition To Enforce Parenting Time, to make sure she doesn't KEEP denying my time."

Your lawyer charges:

1. Time to read email
2. Time to draft Petition For Contempt
3. Time to draft Petition To Enforce Parenting Time
   
   Now, which one of the above is better for your wallet AND better for your kids?
   
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