Father's Rights: Removing The Stress (And A Question)
One of the most stressful aspects of being a father without custody is the feeling that you are living you life looking over your shoulder. Everything you do is criticized. Everything you don't do gets attacked. This causes stress. So how can you get rid of the stress?
By embracing it.
I'll give you the example I give my clients:
Let's say you've got your son for the weekend. You two are driving in the car. He turns to you and says, "Hey Dad. Let's go to McDonald's for lunch!"
Here are the bad scenarios.
Bad scenario #1: you take him to McDonald's for lunch. And oh! You are attacked! "That's not real food!" "You're going to make him fat and give him a heart attack!" "You are a terrible father!"
Bad scenario #2: you don't take him to McDonald's for lunch. Let the arrows fly! "You know how much he likes McDonald's!" "He was starving by the time you finally fed him!" "You are a terrible father!"
So how do you avoid the stress in this situation?
Look, if everything you do is going to bring the accusation "You're a terrible father" - then do what you want! because it doen't matter. It is impossible for you to make the right decision. Or to do the thing that makes her say: "Oh, yeah - THAT's okay."
So make the decisions that are right for you and your son. Every time.
Go HERE to order "Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father"
Go RIGHT_HERE to get a free mini-report: Introduction To "Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father"
So here's my question:
Should we have a term for "fathers who don't have custody"?
"Non-custodial father" is just too long and awkward
"divorced dad" doesn't apply to everyone
And what should we call this whole situation? "Split family" just doesn't sound right...
So leave me suggestions in the COMMENTS on this blog and we'll see if there is a consensus
Thank you
P.S. please don't say "Dad." Yes, it's appropriate and it's correct - but I am looking for a specific subset of "dad"
By embracing it.
I'll give you the example I give my clients:
Let's say you've got your son for the weekend. You two are driving in the car. He turns to you and says, "Hey Dad. Let's go to McDonald's for lunch!"
Here are the bad scenarios.
Bad scenario #1: you take him to McDonald's for lunch. And oh! You are attacked! "That's not real food!" "You're going to make him fat and give him a heart attack!" "You are a terrible father!"
Bad scenario #2: you don't take him to McDonald's for lunch. Let the arrows fly! "You know how much he likes McDonald's!" "He was starving by the time you finally fed him!" "You are a terrible father!"
So how do you avoid the stress in this situation?
Look, if everything you do is going to bring the accusation "You're a terrible father" - then do what you want! because it doen't matter. It is impossible for you to make the right decision. Or to do the thing that makes her say: "Oh, yeah - THAT's okay."
So make the decisions that are right for you and your son. Every time.
Go HERE to order "Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father"
Go RIGHT_HERE to get a free mini-report: Introduction To "Aggressive Pleadings For The Non-Custodial Father"
So here's my question:
Should we have a term for "fathers who don't have custody"?
"Non-custodial father" is just too long and awkward
"divorced dad" doesn't apply to everyone
And what should we call this whole situation? "Split family" just doesn't sound right...
So leave me suggestions in the COMMENTS on this blog and we'll see if there is a consensus
Thank you
P.S. please don't say "Dad." Yes, it's appropriate and it's correct - but I am looking for a specific subset of "dad"
