Fathers Rights

There are a lot of holidays and vacation times coming up.  Spring break. Memorial Day.  Easter. Father’s Day. Summer. SUMMER.

If you and your ex have worked out a schedule, and you see your children on these special times with no problem - GREAT!  That’s exactly what is supposed to happen, and we are very glad for you and your children.  In fact, you might want to post a comment to let the other fathers in this community know how you did it.

But if you DON’T see your children on these times…
If you have to hire a lawyer, who files with the court, which tells your ex “don’t let it happen again” (even though it always does…)
If your children are spending their summers with babysitters and Father’s Day with - well, without you…

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BUT you know how long it takes to get into court…
How she and her lawyer get it continued and continued and continued…
And use the time to make plans for the kids, so eventually they just don’t want to come (can you say “parental alienation”???) …

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Okay, so last time I said I would make some posts about Social Networking and how this can help you in enforcing your father’s rights.  If you haven’t heard about social networking, that’s okay.  It’s a pretty new term.  But the idea is as old as people!

I went to whatis.com for a definition (whatis.com calls itself the “leading IT encyclopedia and learning center”).Their definition is “the practice of expanding the number of one’s business and/or social contacts by making connections through individuals. While social networking has gone on almost as long as societies themselves have existed, the unparalleled potential of the Internet to promote such connections is only now being fully recognized and exploited, through Web-based groups established for that purpose.”

Got it?

Yeah, me neither.

Okay, here is what it means for you.

The Internet is used by most people for either information or entertainment.  Want to learn about a company? Look at their website.  Want directions to your friend’s house or the courthouse?  Look up one of the map websites.  Want to watch a funny video or your favorite show’s last episode?  Look it up on a video site.

Now, one thing you may notice on these websites is a COMMENT box or a GUESTBOOK link or something like that.  This ability to comment on stuff, to comment on other people’s comments, or to follow other people’s links is the beginning of social networking.  Social networking is using the Internet to connect with and hold conversations with other people.

The Internet makes this very easy.  Blogs, social sites like Facebook and MySpace, groups and forums – all of these are social networking.  The key to social networking is to find the most convenient and efficient way for you.

Fathers can use social networking to connect with other fathers and discuss their situations.  You can use blogs or groups to compare experiences and bounce ideas off each other.  You can discuss strategies.

You can also use social network sites to see what your ex is doing.  Is the mother of your children posting on MySpace? Check it out.  Is she posting to a bulletin board for mothers?  Read what she is saying.

One problem that many fathers face is they have been isolated in their marriage or in their relationship.  Social networking allows fathers to meet each other and connect in a co-operative way, without the embarrassment or awkwardness of discussing their problems in a bar or (ugh) in a “group.”

I encourage fathers to search out groups, blogs, forums, and the like on the web, and to start conversations with other fathers.  In later posts we will discuss etiquette, but for now, follow this rule: don’t talk about your problems right away.  Introduce yourself (NO personal identifying information!!! You don’t need identify theft on top of your other problems!).  Get to know other people there. Don’t pop in with “My name’s Jim. Help! I’m getting screwed!”

This blog is an example of social networking.

Here is a group I started for fathers: Dads In Court

And remember:
The Father’s Rights Library would make an excellent topic of discussion.
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Hi all.  Over the next few days and weeks, I am going to post a series about Web 2.0 or social networking, and how fathers can use this to connect with other fathers in similar situations.  You can meet and discuss child custody issues, family law court strategy, child support, custody evaluations, parental alienation. Social networking is more familiar as MySpace, FaceBook, YouTube, and sites like this.  But these sites only scratch the surface of what social networking can do for you.  Saying social networking is just MySpace is like saying medicine is just the thermometer.

These sites got popular with teenagers and college kids, who are familiar and comfortable with technology and these forms of communcation.  But social networking has grown far beyond simply putting a blog about “what I did today.”  Ning.com,f or example, is a social networking site that lets you buuild your own social network!  Secondary sites, like Digg, StumbleUpon, and other sites, highlight various postings to other readers.  So the social networking sites are all networked together.

Social networking also includes blogs, commenting on blogs, using RSS feeds to keep up to date on new posts, etc. It includes forums and groups and membership sites.

So how does all this help you, Dad without custody trying to see his children and get his child support corrected?  Imagine telling your situation to 300 or 400 fathers in similar situations, and getting feedback and advice.  Or imagine hearing another father talk about his problems, and you being to help him and his kids out. That’s what social networking brings to the table.  Communication and co-operation.

So watch this blog over the next few weeks.  I don’t have an outline of what’s going up here.  This isn’t some pre-packaged course.  It’s just my thoughts and experiences from playing around with these sites.  Yor comments and feedback are more than appreciated. 

Oh.  The Father’s Rights Library would make an excellent topic of discussion.
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It is a few days after New Year’s Day, andI am looking on the web for ideas for posts for this blog.  What’s happening in the news, maybe.  What are some current strategies in court.  And who is the one person in America who has her finger on the pulse of trends, and who actually sets trends?  OPRAH!

So I actually went to oprah.com.  As painful as that was, I decided to check out the site. Well constructed. Colorful in a girly kind of way.  So I typed in “fathers” in the seaarch box, and sorted the entries by relevancy.  Here are the top 10:

Here’s a Happy New Year to all the fathers out there.  If you are seeing your kids on a regular basis, without interference - enjoy those times.  If you are a father who is being denied visitation, or who has his parenting time interfered with - hang in there!  There are many people supporting you.

I encourage all the fathers to join forums, use Facebook or MySpace or other sites to connect with each other.  Offer each other support, tips, insights, and maybe even a sympathetic ear. This year, one project I want to get rolling is using social network sites and groups and forums more to get you guys talking to each other.

Here’s a toast to all the fathers out there and a heartfelt wish that 2009 is the year that you have the happiest and best times with your children!

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Merry Christmas, and may your special angel guide you and your family to happiness and joy.

As an attorney who is in family law court almost every week, I see fathers’ words used against them all the time, in ways they never ever thought possible.  So you MUST be careful of everything you put in an email, text or even day to her.

For example, my client was asked by wife’s attorney “Didn’t you tell your wife you hate her, in front of your child?”  This is the kind of thing that is influential with a judge.  It shows that Dad doesn’t care about his child’s feelings, whom we assume still loves both parents.  Well, what my client actually said was “I hate what you are doing with this divorce.” So not only was the question inaccurate, but the lawyer totally ignored the fact that the mother was discussing the divorce in front of the child and that dad was trying to disengage the conversation.

Another example is when opposing counsel asked my client if he is willing to “stop threatening your wife in your text messages to her?”  My client got a confused look on his face and said “I don’t think I am threatening her. Can you give me an example?”  Of course, wife’s attorney just moved on to the next question, but the point was to get the judge to think that Husband is threatening wife via text message.  In reality, my client was texting his wife about picking up the children - she was threatening to deny his parenting time - and he responded that he would enforce his rights by calling the police.  it is NEVER a “threat” when you demand that you rights are enforced.  Well, except to your ex…

The point here is NOT to stop all contact with your ex. You can’t.  She is the mother of your children, so there will always have to be some communication her.  But what you shoud do is:

• save all emails, including everything you send;
• save all text messages.  If your phone service won’t save them, then print them out or forward them to your private email;
• keep a diary (yes, a diary) of conversations with her.  Phone calls and face to face conversations;
• Give this information to your lawyer, so that he or she can respond to situations like the above.

Remember that for a lot of mothers, the children represent money (in the form of child support or a larger share of the marital pot) and it is my experience that people fight harder for money than for kids.  Mothers have the advantage of being able to put everything they ask for as “it’s for the children.”  You need to take this advantage away.

Watch your words.  They may come back and really relaly hurt you.

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This past weekend I visited some friends.  I also was getting over a cold. In fact, the only thing left was
that annoying cough that just won’t go away.  But I went, because my friends are a lot of fun.

So when I got back, it was just starting to drizzle and a cold front was moving in.  I coughed on the bus
from the terminal to the long term parking lot. I coughed as I walked around, looking for my car.  And I
coughed - and cursed when I saw the flat tire.

Grrrrrrr!

So I put down my bag (I travel light), got out the spare and the jack, and went to work.  I tore into that
first bolt, straining and grunting and breathing really deeply.  Finally, it moved.  I attacked number 2, and
after more grunting, pulling, and deep deep breaths, it moved too.  And number 3. And, finally, number 4.

I switched the tires out and started driving home.  And I realized I wasn’t coughing.

Not once.  No annoying tickle in the chest. No irritation in the lungs.  Nothing.

I figure that the deep breathing, and the cold air saturated with rain, cleaned out whatever was in my lungs
that was causing the cough.

Now, I am not a doctor.  And I am not recommending that you go exercise in the rain, or do work in the
cold. But I do think that deep breathing can really help out when you have a cold.

What does this have to do with Father’s Rights? Nothing. It’s just some advice, from one father to another,
to maybe help you out a little bit.

The Father’s Rights Library.  Check it out. Still at the special pricing.

P.S. Here is something else.  It’s a warning. 
t’s Celine Dion singing “You Shook Me All Night Long” by AC/DC.
I’m putting the link HERE so that you never accidentally see this.
It’s worse than you can imagine.
Watch at your own risk.
Think long and hard before you click that link. I wish I had. I lasted 1:42 before I had to listen to the original.

I saw this headline via my Google News Reader: Indiana boy, 8, is latest to be left in Nebraska
It’s about the Nebraska law that children to be left at a hospital without fear of prosecution.  The media and all the groups have focused on several incidents where teenagers and older children have been left. They say the focus iof the law is really intended to be on infants, so that mothers who give birth can abandon their children and let them live, instead of kiling them right after their birth.

Ummm…. Where’s DAD in all this?

Read the article: it says that “parents” can drop the child at the hospital - but in none of the coverage have I heard that DAD was even identifed, let alone contacted. It seems that everyone is concerned that mothers are dropping off children they can’t raise.  Well maybe they never should have had custody in tghe firwst place.  And maybe outr society should actually treat fathers as having an equal presumption to custody, rather than coming up with BS laws to protect mothers who abandon their children instead of murdering them.

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