Fathers Rights

Even if your parenting time with your children is being denied by your ex, you can - and must - stayin touch with your children.  The remedy for denial of parenting time, by the way, is some form of petition to hold her in contempt - and sometimes, judges even do this.

But how do you stay in contact with your children if you cannot see them?  How can you interact with them if you are being denied the oppoorutnity to be face-to-face with them?

Here are some ideas:

• give your child a "restricted use" cell phone.  Some cell phones are designed to accept only calls from specific phone numbers (like yours) or to be able to call only 2 or 3 phone numbers (like yours, mom's and 9-1-1).
• text messages can be used, especially where mom denies use of the phone.
• have email addresses or websites that only you and your children use.
• have lunch with them at school.
• be at practices, rehearsals, field trips, etc.

The important thing here is to maintain that point of contact with your children, so that they know that you love them and want to be in their lives.

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If you've ever had one of those "was the judge SLEEPING?" kind of orders, after a hearing, you probably begin to wonder what these "father's rights" are.

Guess what? There are no father's rights.
There are no mother's rights.
There ARE children's rights: the right to receive child support (through mom's bank account, of course).

Oh - there's also the right for children to visit their non-custodial father, to receive his love and concern, to have his viewpoint and input into how they are raised.  It's a right.

It's also pretty regularly ignored by courts - UNLESS you get it in front of the judge the right way.
It doesn't mean the judge won't sleep through your hearing.  It just makes it more difficult.

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Growing up, kids have all kinds of heros.  Some, like athletes, can inspire them and motivate them to accomplish great feats.  Some, like politicians or great leaders, can help them see a world bigger than themselves.  Some, like Paris Hilton or Britney Spears, are just passing fads.  But there is one hero no child can grow up without.

Dad.

When Mom and Dad separate, and Mom gets the kids, sometimes Dad can stay in their lives.  Visiting them regularly.  Helping out at school.  BEING in their lives.  And the kids remember this.

And sometimes - and if you are at this blog, probably you or a father you love - Dad is intentionally excluded.  Carved out of their lives.  Kept in the dark on health matters, school and religious issues.  Dad is a wallet.  And the kids remember this, too.

Be in their lives.  If you aren't getting your visitation rights, it's a waste of time asking her for them.  It's a court order. Enforce it.

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I saw this article this morning, saying that a judge in Maryland has decided that a RAPIST has "father's rights":
http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/local/bal-te.md.rape05mar05,0,5226799.story
(here's the headline and first paragraph:

Rape suspects' parental rights under debate
In Maryland, a man who fathers a child through rape maintains parental rights, such as the right to appeal for visitation or custody of his offspring.)

This is insane.  In a system where fathers who live with their children every day of the marriage are denied visitation post-separation, and ex-boyfriends are given "supervised visitation" because of unsupported acusations of alcohol abuse, to even consider that a rapist has father's rights is insane.

Fathers who love their children have to fight every day in a system that refuses to acknowledge that love.  They have to fight against judges who find it easier to calculate unpaid child support than lost parenting time.  They fight mother who love the child support more than they respect the need for a loving father to be in his children's lives.

And now they are told that they are put on the same level of animals who rape women.

Our legal system is now insane. Plan your litigation accordingly.

The answer is not to amend the statute, as the article states, but for the legal system to presume that fathers love their children, and that being a rapist irrebuttably rebuts that presumption. Let the rapists form a lobby and change the laws, not force fathers to do it.

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Wouldn't it be nice if fathers had a Bill Of Rights that court, lawyers, custody evaluators, police, and mothers had to respect and enforce?  What rights would you put in such a Father's Bill of Rights?

Here's one suggestion:
The right to have a presumption, in court, in evaluations, and in appeals, that fathers in fact love their children.

What other rights do you think fathers have?  Leave comments, please.

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Fathers who do not have custody know how difficult it is to arrange summer parenting time.  Many divorce decrees or state parenting time guidelines give fathers the right to have 2 weeks, or 4 weeks, or even half the entire summer with their children!  But actually GETTING all that time? Whew. Good luck.

It doesn't take luck.  It takes tenacity and persistence. It takes demanding that time with YOU is more important than summer camps, cheerleading practices, or fake summer schools.

First, review your decre or state guidelines and see if there is a deadline for you to select your time.  WRITE this deadline on ALL your calendars. DO NOT MISS IT! At least one week before the deadline, send her a letter by certified mail and regular mail, listing specifically the dates you are selecting.  Do not say these are the dates you "want" or the dates you are "asking" for.  These are your dates. Don't be wishy-washy about it. If she has a lawyer, send the lawyer a copy as well.

If there is not a deadline in the Decree or guidelines, then pick one! Most decrees or guidelines use April 1 or May 1.  I say the sooner the better, especially if your ex has a history of enrolling the children in every activity available over the summer, to deny you your time with them.

(Review this step with local counsel to make sure it's okay with local rules and practice) File with your court a simple "Certificate Of Notification" that says: "<your name> notifies this Court that on <date>, he sent to <ex wife name> by certified mail, return receipt requested, notification of the dates elected for summer parenting time, pursuant to <paragraph of the Decree or paragraph of the guidelines>."  Send her a copy and add a Certificate of Service at the bottom.

Don't wait until the last moment. Don't let her respond to your dates with "alternate" dates.  Don't even acknowledge that these dates are negotiable.  You are entitled to specific time during your kids' summer break.  Take it. Use it.

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